“I had to learn to allow myself to simultaneously feel the gratitude, hope, and excitement of being pregnant and becoming a mom, while at the same time allowing myself to say, 'This vomiting sucks,' or, 'I'm exhausted,' or, 'My body doesn't feel like mine right now.' It seems like it should be one or the other, but it's totally okay to give space to both sides of the emotions at the same time.” - Angilyn Bagley

"Mourning with those that mourn and comforting those that stand in need of comfort requires vulnerability on both sides. To have that kind of influence on others, and to allow them to have that kind of influence on you, requires opening up in ways that can feel scary." -Angilyn Bagley

“These situations in our marriages can bring out the question, 'Do you want to know ME, or do you want to know me as you need me to be to keep you comfortable?' We come to a more stable place in our relationships when we say, 'I want to KNOW my partner - flaws and all,' so that we can build on a place of collaboration and not coercion.” - Kristin Hodson

"Always Go to the Funeral. They may not notice if you don't, but they will always remember if you do." - Sister Debi Wilcox

“Without such a love map, you can’t really know your spouse. And if you don’t really know someone, how can you truly love them?” - Dr. John Gottman

“The absence of trauma, the healing from betrayal, does not equal wellness. You can heal and be in a stable place and still feel dissatisfied and unfulfilled. True sexual and relational wellness comes from moving towards a healthier place in your relationship - the vision beyond repair.” - Kristin Hodson

"We came from two different marriages, with two sets of children, two different lifestyles and careers... It was doing something difficult, and dangerous and emotionally challenging together that gave us something uniquely ours." - Georgia Anderson

“It’s exhilarating to think that we are ready to have our hearts broken - to put it back on God because we know that He can pick up the pieces.” - Danelle Beckstrand

“People don’t recover in treatment centers - people don’t recover in a buildings, or in jails. People recover in the context of relationships.” - Jason Coombs

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