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Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist #32

Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist #32

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a LDS relationship and sexuality coach as well as a  Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in the state of Illinois.  She has a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. In addition to her dissertation research on LDS women's sexuality and relationship to desire, she has taught college level human sexuality courses. Her teaching and coaching focuses on helping LDS individuals and couples achieve greater satisfaction and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships.

In addition to consultation with couples and individuals (in person and online), she offers online relationship and sexuality courses as well as live workshops and retreats for LDS couples and individuals.  

Jennifer is a frequent guest on LDS-themed podcasts and write articles for LDS-themed blogs and magazines, on the subjects of sexuality, relationships, mental health and faith.

E49 - Continuing the Porn Conversation with Dr. Cam Staley

E49 - Continuing the Porn Conversation with Dr. Cam Staley

"We need to have more compassion and understanding in our marriages - for ourselves and for our partner.

There are a lot of things that enter our relationships from our pasts. We need to realize that it is going to take some time to perfect this dance. Sometimes they're going to step on your toes, and sometimes you will step on theirs. When we do that, let’s try to give each other some feedback and support.

It can quickly turn to blame and anger - ‘you stepped on me and that really hurt!’ Most often there is not malicious intent, yet people still get injured. We get hurt and our expectations get betrayed. There is a lot of emotion and discomfort and fear. It’s here that we need to start from a place of, ‘my partner is probably doing their best even though they aren’t a great dance partner yet. Maybe I’m not a great dance partner yet either! I thought I had all the moves and I don’t. How can we learn how to dance together?’"

- Dr. Cameron Staley

Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist #31

Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist #31

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a LDS relationship and sexuality coach as well as a  Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in the state of Illinois.  She has a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. In addition to her dissertation research on LDS women's sexuality and relationship to desire, she has taught college level human sexuality courses. Her teaching and coaching focuses on helping LDS individuals and couples achieve greater satisfaction and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships.

In addition to consultation with couples and individuals (in person and online), she offers online relationship and sexuality courses as well as live workshops and retreats for LDS couples and individuals.  

Jennifer is a frequent guest on LDS-themed podcasts and write articles for LDS-themed blogs and magazines, on the subjects of sexuality, relationships, mental health and faith.

E48 - Off Balance On Purpose | Learning to juggle all of life's roles with Rachel Nielson from the 3 in 30 Podcast

E48 - Off Balance On Purpose | Learning to juggle all of life's roles with Rachel Nielson from the 3 in 30 Podcast

“I felt like the Lord was telling me, ‘I created you the way you are for a reason. You have these gifts and these desires and these skills because I put them there in you. It’s not wrong to follow those. In fact, it’s fulfilling the measure of your creation.’

I do believe that it is a parent’s (both a father's and a mother's) primary responsibility for the nurture of their children, and a huge part of that is finding nurturing opportunities for them. I’m the facilitator of the nurturing and the education that happens in my children’s life. I do not have to be the only one doing the nurturing.” - Rachel Nielsen

E46 - An Antidote to the "Almost Life" | Tapping into your Super Human Nature with Seth Ellsworth

E46 - An Antidote to the "Almost Life" | Tapping into your Super Human Nature with Seth Ellsworth

Buried in your humanity is a jewel - a gift from God. It is the strongest force in your life. There is no stronger force that you could use for good in your life then this:

Your human nature has one single motive - to fight for what it deems as normal.

It will fight to a degree that you cannot win. So, what do you do?

Simple. Redefine what’s normal.

All of a sudden, your human nature will work FOR you, instead of against you. This idea of controlling and creating what is normal is everything.

E45 - Balancing Sacrifice and Self-Care with Dr. Julie de Azevedo Hanks

E45 - Balancing Sacrifice and Self-Care with Dr. Julie de Azevedo Hanks

“We often think of Christ’s life as the ultimate sacrifice - which it is - but we overlook that He practiced self care. He took time alone, He napped, He ate, He would be with people and then would take time away.

We have to balance that.

If we don’t invest time in developing our sense of self, we can’t be ‘self-less.’ We wouldn’t have anything to offer.”

- Dr. Julie Hanks

E43 - Baby Bagley's First Trimester

E43 - Baby Bagley's First Trimester

“I had to learn to allow myself to simultaneously feel the gratitude, hope, and excitement of being pregnant and becoming a mom, while at the same time allowing myself to say, 'This vomiting sucks,' or, 'I'm exhausted,' or, 'My body doesn't feel like mine right now.' It seems like it should be one or the other, but it's totally okay to give space to both sides of the emotions at the same time.” - Angilyn Bagley