Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist #28 LIVE RECORDING Part 1


In part 1 of our LIVE recording, we hear what inspired Jennifer to put her life’s work into helping LDS women and couples develop healthy sexuality in their lives and marriages.

We also delve into questions asked by two of our lady listeners!

Question #1

I live in Utah and I feel like there is a lot of pressure from my ward and surroundings suppressing my sexuality. When I'm on vacation, or trips alone with my husband, I feel so able to claim my sexuality, but when I come back from trips or vacations,  I feel like it gets stripped away with motherhood, the sense of what it is to be a female and then I feel like an object to be managed sexually. I recognize a perfect mormon woman is a made up cultural myth, but I feel that owning my sexuality is possible. I also find that I resent my husband's sexuality and I'm judgemental of it, and I need help. How do I become a whole woman and stay solid in my sexuality? The shame force is strong in Utah! Can you paint me a picture of what a whole sexual LDS woman looks like? Honestly when I try to paint or describe a whole woman it ends up looking like a hot mess woman with holes to be used and objectified not the whole woman I find on vacation.

Question #2

I have been married for fifteen years and have never had an orgasm. We have tried and tried, but I just can’t do it. How do you do it? My husband and I fit the Mormon mold when it comes to the fact that we were never talked to about sex in any way other than it was bad. What would be your suggestion for me to do? 

About Our Guest

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife


Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a LDS relationship and sexuality coach as well as a  Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in the state of Illinois.  She has a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. In addition to her dissertation research on LDS women's sexuality and relationship to desire, she has taught college level human sexuality courses. Her teaching and coaching focuses on helping LDS individuals and couples achieve greater satisfaction and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships.

In addition to consultation with couples and individuals (in person and online), she offers online relationship and sexuality courses as well as live workshops and retreats for LDS couples and individuals.  

Jennifer is a frequent guest on LDS-themed podcasts and write articles for LDS-themed blogs and magazines, on the subjects of sexuality, relationships, mental health and faith.

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